“I’ve tried everything! Nothing works! I know what to do, but I just keep failing.”
I know you don’t want to hear this, but you need help.
One of the biggest challenges for the ADHD brain is self-monitoring. We sometimes don't reliably monitor our time, progress, emotions, or thoughts. This is not always a problem, but when it is, it becomes all-consuming.
For many folks, support means a family member, good friend, or colleague as their sounding board and guardrails.
Many ADHD folks don't know how to explain to their support person what they need.
There are no shortcuts.
If you want to empower others to support you, you’ve got to understand yourself and tell them what you need. I know it can be painful (messy) and often takes multiple conversations over lots of time to find your groove.
But, wouldn’t it be worth it if it means you’ll finally mark that project off your list?
These are questions I ask my clients. Consider sharing them with your support person(s).
What makes you feel supported?
What is hard about this task / project?
What will keep you from doing it?
What could we do to set up your workspace to support your success?
How would you like me to bring it up if I sense you're struggling?
What else do you want them to ask you?
Many of my clients either don’t have a safe person for that role or don’t want the people they have to be in that role.
As a coach, my job is to partner with my clients as they learn about themselves. My hope is they will develop the skills to coach themselves in between our sessions and beyond our time working together. If you want to know more connect with me!
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